What drives you? Who is sitting in your car’s drivers seat? Is it really you? Or is it someone else?
Questions, that I believe people don’t end up asking themselves everyday. Various possible reasons…maybe your happy with the current state…maybe you don’t have the time to think…maybe you are a believer that destiny drives you, so its not really possible to sit on the front seat of your own car anyways.
In the physical world, just imagine, if you owned a car and went out in it, wouldn’t you have driven it to the destination that you had planned? You would have also had the control on the manner you drive. Even if you had a driver, he would have followed your instructions on where and how.
However, in the world of goals, we seem to easily give the control of our car to others or external circumstances. That doesn’t seem to make entire sense!
In my life, I would have really liked to take control of my own car, places I wanted to reach, the goals I wanted to achieve, the pace of my life.
Frankly, it is impossible. Although, our current mindsets might be conditioned to suggest otherwise.
If, we as individuals, have got habituated to allow the tides to determine which direction we are going to get flown, it will seem impossible to grab the control back. However, it is not impossible.
It needs discipline, it needs planning, it needs consistence and it needs us to be hard on ourselves.
This is where, I would like to introduce the concept of ‘Me Time‘.
Let’s try to understand what we need to do
We need to fix some time, ONCE A WEEK, making an appointment with myself. Minimum 30 mins! (Although, the first time might want to be longer)
Once you fix it, don’t negotiate with yourself. Ek baar commitment kar di, to apni phi nahi sunna (once you made a commitment to yourself, don’t change it).
During the committed time, stop doing anything else. Give your complete attention to the meeting with yourself.
Decide on a desired state – self goals. Start with the a SMART system, later, with practice, you can become more aggressive.
Analyse your current state. Are you completely happy by the way you are allowing your car to be driven.
What changes would you like to create. Remember, change takes time and effort. You cannot change everything at once. So, you need to prioritise.
START. You wouldn’t believe how many great initiatives don’t realise, because we don’t start. Starting is 25% of the work done.
CONTINUE. Be disciplined, maintain a schedule, mark it on your calendar, don’t negotiate with that time.
Don’t be happy with half the goal. Strive to reach the rest of it. Trust me, it is far more satisfying.
This takes diligence and constant efforts. However, the returns are quite awesome, and, you get a chance to achieve much more than your previously unplanned life.
You might think, that destiny will bring to me what I want and that miracles can happen! My belief about miracles is, ‘No one should plan for a miracle, if one comes your way, really awesome.’
At the end, efforts will always be noticed. Your experience will show it. Life will give you your returns, if you have invested in yourself. Think of ‘Me Time‘ as an investment, that you are going to get long-term, but sure returns.
Hopefully, we can Start and analyse the benefits ourselves…. All the best….